The answer is: In secret

Matt 6:1-18 - Not like the Pharisees who made sure everyone knew what good works they were doing

When it comes to charity, prayer, and fasting, Matthew 6:1-18 delivers a powerful message about motivation. Jesus emphasizes doing these good deeds in secret rather than for show. The practice of being discreet not only protects the integrity of your actions but also fosters genuine humility. At that time, the Pharisees enjoyed reveling in their public displays of piety. Think of them as the early influencers, taking every opportunity to broadcast their 'goodness.'

This concept isn't just for the first-century folks; it feels almost refreshing in today's world of social media where every act of kindness risks becoming a performance. In Christ's teachings, the spotlight should always be on the good deed itself, not the doer. You might even consider the phrase "what you do in secret will be rewarded" a promise of kinship between your spiritual self and the divine—you'll build a more meaningful connection through private acts.

Trivia time! Did you know that Jesus’ message aligns quite well with the old Jewish practice of charity where giving was to be done quietly? This isn't something new—echoes of caring for the less fortunate recur throughout many cultures and faiths but find a particularly poignant expression in the Jewish traditions surrounding “tzedakah,” which focuses not just on charity but justice in giving.

Ultimately, the essence lies in sincerity, enriching our spiritual journey without the pomp and fanfare. It makes each act of kindness a sweet whisper between you and the universe, far removed from the clamor of validation.